The Young Adult

Me and most of my peers find ourselves at this moment in life where we are described as young adults, tricky times i would say. Most of us are fighting midlife crisis right now and the main cause of this is the one and only factor…great expectations from society.

Society is not something strange or someone from outside or far, society is closer than you think. Society are your drinking buddies, parents, workmates, rolex guy, boda guy and siblings to mention but a few. And these are the people with great expectations from you. They expect certain things from you as a young adult. They always want to ask questions them themselves cannot answer.

Many have succumbed to this pressure by marrying too soon, getting into jobs they hate, abandoning their passions and doing things they love, moving out of the parent’s house when they can hardly pay rent.

Though some have rebelled and refused to be subject to these expectations, well guess what? these are the people society calls ‘losers’. Which i personally do not agree to. These are the heroes, these are the people who are out there to save the generation from such heavy burden. People paving way to a complete new way of life, a change in society attitude.

With the ‘losers’ holding onto their guns , maybe society will agree to a number of situations without being judgemental and cringing to the idea of it;

32, not in a relationship,no full time job, staying in parents house

36, stays alone, with well paying job, and no plans of getting married or having kids, with hundreds of empty beer bottles in the bedroom.

Truthfully, this is how some would like to live but they cannot so they end up living other people’s lives which is a disaster in a long run.

I know a friend who is facing a midlife crisis at 26, he has been in a long term relationship which ended cause he wasn’t putting a ring on it, he is living in a huge apartment alone for which he moved out of the parent’s house to leave with the departed girlfriend, he hates the company that he is currently working for hence missing days at work. He feels like reversing his life but he is stuck. Time is irreversible.

I have other friends who have quit work suddenly because they fell into the wrong job and they are frustrated and feeling like they deserve better. Better being following their passions art, sports, music,dance, coding.

Others have ended their marriages before a year because they got bored. In the first place getting married at 26 is like leaving the party at 11 then you get text messages, snap chat stories of what is happening at the party and you decide to leave bed and go back.

well many of us young adults are falling for this pressure but i do not think we should fall for it, given that there are a lot of things we haven’t accomplished in our 20’s and 30’s. As many would know, there is a bucket list for our 20’s. lets cross things off. That threesome hasn’t been had yet, you haven’t visited Brazil yet, the road-trips to south Africa, bungee jumping and the list goes on as far as your young imagination can go. So go live life.

 

 

Sales and the ‘friend-zone’

Sales is not only a career but it’s life itself, like you will realize that everything you do to make a sale on the job is the same thing that applies to accomplish anything else in life from when you are born.

I have found the sales game very similar to successfully getting the girl you want. some people prefer to fall in love with the first person who shows interest but if you are one who goes for what you like and you get it, the experience is no different from closing a business deal.

From the time you walk into social gatherings and places looking forward to meeting some girls and boys,weird i know (prospecting). and you know most of them will tell you ‘i have a boyfriend’ yet you already know the nigga.

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Then you spot the girl you like, your type of girl, your class and who you think can go with a guy like you(qualifying your lead). Not an easy one because you will find that many fail at this as they¬† they do not mind about how long it will take to close the deal, so they end up in the dreaded “friend-zone” for decades.

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So the time to approach, also referred to as approach in sales. how will you talk to her? first impression lasts forever. Biggest mistake for me is to forget to exchange contacts, sometimes i forget and i have to go to Google with only the client name in mind.This is an options but its the harder one. and for the girl it will be awkward when you tell her i got your number from a friend or her Facebook.

Then you have to follow up. sometimes you have to meet the client out of office and treat them to a cup of coffee or lunch. so these are the dates. dating should be fun. but you are selling yourself. different impressive attires, good talk and rehearsed lines. But sales teaches you not to be caught in a loop of dates, coffee/ lunch over and over again. which happens to many thus the question “so what are we”

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CLOSING: This is the ultimate aim and goal of selling. sealing the deal. only am a little confused about sealing the deal with a girl. depending on your religious beliefs. you will either bang her after that fifth date or just get a good ‘yes i will be your girlfriend’ and wait for her to give it up after marriage.

but as they say, sales is a continuous process, even after you close the deal. you have to do somethings. we can talk about that later. after all she gave it up.